It is what it is, and that’s all that it is.

I don’t know if it’s the Ribavirin making me  crabby or what (there is such a thing known as ‘riba rage’) but I’ve recently become irritated at phrases like ‘Healing Journey” or “Self-Discovery”. But wait you say, isn’t that what this blog is all about, Jenny? Well, yes, and no.
First of all as I’ve contemplated Life, and Misfortune, and Happiness and Growth and All That We Are it has struck me that many of the phrases we use imply some sort of ending to the process. Some sort of goal…to be, what Healed ? Then what? What does that even look like? And worse yet are we selling our selves short by not being at some point of healing that we think we should be.
Part of this problem has to do with linear thinking. We are not to blame for that, it’s the way we’ve been raised in our culture to perceive time, and movement and growth. Fact is, we really don’t understand much about any of those things. I’m no expert on quantum physics, it fascinates me but makes my brain hurt, but I’m pretty sure the “way of the Universe” is not linear. And neither are our lives. I’ve talked before about healing happening in layers and stages, but that still implies some sort of final destination, to some kind of core truth. Maybe that’s enlightenment. But I’m not so sure even Enlightenment happens all at once, unless perhaps when we die.
I’ve mentioned before that I’m somewhat changing my tone, my approach, to this blog and my goals in general. It’s been almost a year since I’ve been out of work, out of the field of “Helping” with their strict definitions of  “what works”, what “sucess” looks like, and what it doesn’t and their quest for “Evidence Based Practices”.  When I reflect on my original goal, it is to bring a little more Real Life into the services and systems that are designed to help people. One of the finest Therapists I ever worked with used to say “it is what it is” any time a client would lament her situation, especially if she were condemning herself. So yeah it is what it is, if it’s “progress” ie learning to make healthier choices for ourselves, or choices that are more in sync with what we believe in and value. If it’s making a mistake, even though we’ve made the same mistake before. It all part of the process of life.
So for my own self respect, and contribution to my creative abilities, I am going to throw out the psychobabble, I’m going to tell it like it is. I might even swear, damnit,
As the Great Journalist/Commentator Walter Cronkite concluded his evening broadcast, “And that’s the way it is”

© 2010 Nanakoosa’s Place, authored by Jennifer Hazard

I saw this quote this morning and felt it spoke to my thoughts in this post 🙂  Thank you, Julia and Wayne!
Julia von Flotow Via Wayne McGuire – “The Universe has no edge and the centre is everywhere.”

Wishing everyone a peaceful weekend!


About nanakoosa

Me...I am a trained Advocate and Counselor with 20 years experience working with Youth and Families. My most recent employment brought me to the field of Domestic and Sexual Violence Counseling and support. I myself am a Survivor of violence and have been on both side of the service desk, which provides for a unique, often conflicting, theoretical orientation. I am a regular blogger, journal keeper and story teller. My current focus is to give voice to the experiences of survivors, to shine some light in the dark corners of family life where all the spiders and creepy things hide. I also enjoy writing about my unconventional childhood in the tumultuous 60's and am dabbling in memoir writing. I have three wonderful children, two fabulous granddaughters and an assortment of pets. View all posts by nanakoosa

2 responses to “It is what it is, and that’s all that it is.

  • OJ Gonzalez-Cazares

    hi there, I stopped by from Dawn's life lines journaling to show my support and appreciation for this cause. I wrote something to join efforts and bring awareness this month.
    Have a nice Sunday!

  • Theresa

    Hey Jenny

    This a great and thought provoking post. I especially like this quote:

    “Some sort of goal…to be, what Healed ? Then what? What does that even look like? And worse yet are we selling our selves short by not being at some point of healing that we think we should be.”

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom,

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